Objectifying Women, Pornography, and Miley Cyrus

Last night I was flipping channels when Jimmy Fallon's Tonight Show aired. Normally I love watching his show, and even though it was a re-run from February, I stayed interested - until they dropped a curtain exposing a 20 foot poster of the cover model for this year's Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition. Or should I say dropped the cover on a Playboy model? I don't think her bikini bottoms could have gone a millimeter lower without being censored.

Annoyed at the crude Sports Illustrated photo, I switched channels. Jimmy Kimmel Live! was showing,
and then Miley Cyrus walked out - wearing nothing but a bedazzled cape and nipple pasties. 

(My censor box had to be very large.) Obviously flustered by her exposing outfit, Kimmel tried to joke, "What does your Dad think about your clothing?" She responded that her father doesn't watch television. Kimmel blushed more nervous chuckles and tried commenting, "I don't even know where to look." Miley Cyrus smiled and advised him to look at her eyebrows instead of her exposed chest. Then she began an entire conversation about her love of pasties and nipples. To Kimmel's seemingly discomfort, Miley frequently showed her bedazzled breasts for all to see. 

Obviously Kimmel felt uncomfortable. As a comedian, he tried to handle the situation with humor. 
 I wish Jimmy Kimmel would have allowed his discomfort to speak out in favor of respecting and uplifting women.

I wish he would have responded to Miley's outfit this way:

"Miley, I'm sorry that you've come all this way to be a guest on my show, but I will not be able to interview you at this time. I respect women, and I think the female body deserves respect. Unfortunately, your outfit looks like walking pornography, and I cannot promote behavior that objectifies women. I'm happy to continue speaking with you, but only after you put on a shirt that honors, rather than degrades, womanhood."

I would have offered a standing ovation from my living room.

Respect for women has fallen so low that Miley's pornographic display was not even censured by a floating black box. FYI television administrators - Nipple pasties are not a shirt.

As a counselor I have seen the destructive grip of pornography on families: A wife in tears who recoils at the touch of her husband. A husband wrapped in an addiction he struggles to avoid and thoughts that consume the goodness in him. A spouse who feels like a piece of meat rather than a human being. Pornography turns women into objects of lust. Josh Duggar hid a pornography addiction for years; is it any surprise that he cheated on his wife?

"Pornography impairs one’s ability to enjoy a normal emotional, romantic, and spiritual relationship with a person of the opposite sex. It erodes the moral barriers that stand against inappropriate, abnormal, or illegal behavior." -Dallin Oaks

When celebrities like Miley Cyrus (and the mostly-naked women at the 2015 Met Gala) wear such provocative outfits, there should be gasps of shock, not claps of acceptance. Pornographic clothing should not be a celebrated as a triumph of self-expression. Pornography is not merely “speech" or a form of sexual “expression.” New neurological research reveals that porn is as potently addictive as heroin or cocaine and possibly harder to overcome! Outfits so bare and outlandish must be labeled for what they are - walking pornography. Being so dangerous and addictive, society should reject these outfits in order to encourage stable families and healthy sexual identities.

The promotion of pornography has no place in a civilized society. Whether it be on a television show, a talk show, a cooking show, or the vast Internet, I wish people would recognize the destructive practice for what it is - evil. Pornography is almost instantly addictive, and it destroys precious family relationships. It impairs a healthy sexual relationship. Walk away people.

I wish the role-models of late night (here's looking at you Jimmy Fallon and Jimmy Kimmel) would stand for honoring womanhood, not glorifying the objectification and sexual exploitation of women.

Consider this my mic drop.


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